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Empathy.

Children and Adults on the spectrum do not lack the ability to have empathy.  Sometimes it is just a matter of knowing how to communicate or show the emotion. 

• Cognitive Empathy- The ability t predict other's thoughts and intentions including the ability to read between the lines during communication

• Affective empathy- The ability to share another person's feelings with them

• Compassionate Empathy- The desire to help others.

When N-Zilla was very small and didn't have the communication skills that he has now I was sad that maybe possibly I would never hear my son say that he loved me. I obsessed if he would even know how. I use to be hung up on those things. I'm gonna say it...I was so dumb then. It didn't take me very long to get over it.  Recently, at the beginning of the school year N-Zilla did something completely inappropriate at school. Still to this day I don't know why he did what he did. (I don't know if it was AU or ADHD or OCD or a bad day or whatever.) After talking to his (wonderful) teacher I did my walk of shame back to the car all the while N-Zilla was talking about Minecraft. I asked him if he did what he did. He said yes blanked faced a bit annoyed that I interrupted him. As soon as we all got settled in the car (minivan. Barf)  I turned to him and the tears poured over. I ugly cried. I managed to ask N-Zilla why he did what he did. He couldn't give me a answer. What he did next made me cry even more but this time tears of happiness. He unbuckled and gave me a hug and wiped my tears, "I'm sorry mommy". "Mommy, you sad"?

Sometimes when he is eating he walks up to me and gives me a piece of his food without saying a word.  Just last night while I was watching T.V N-Zilla came up to me, licked his finger and made the sign of the cross on my forehead.  I just went with it. I know that N-Zilla may not have Cognitive Empathy but I know with all of my heart that he has the ability to share another person's feelings with them and the desire to help others. Everything in life Autistic or not boils down to communication.  


*Here are links to post about AU and Empathy.

http://www.defyingthespectrum.com/2013/02/14/mythbuster-children-with-autism-are-affectionate/
http://www.defyingthespectrum.com/2014/04/25/autism-empathy-myth-day-2530-going-beyond-autism-awareness-2014/

Girls and ASD

Something to think about:

Girls are held to social norms and are more

 likely to go undiagnosed and less likely to get 

early intervention.

AUTISM DIFFERS BY GENDER.

Safri.org/…/autism-characteristics-differ-by-gender-studies…

WWW.oposingviews.com/i/autistic-girls-more-likely-to-go-ind…

Telegraph.co.uk/…/autism-and-girls-Why-we-urgentaly-need-to…

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Tips and Suggestions. Stimming

Helpful tips, suggestions and good ole' fashion info from N-Zilla and mom in honor of April the month known as allergy hell in San Antonio Texas and National Autism Month. A month to promote Awareness, Acceptance, and to Educate.

In the world of Neuro-disorders you'll hear words like MELTDOWNS. TICs. STIMMING. 
While their are similarities they are different.

 Let's talk about Stimming.
Stimming is a repetitive body movement that self-stimulates one or more senses in regulated manner. Fun fact found at http://autism.wikia.com/wiki/Stimming many autistic children have no stims and about 10 percent of young children without autism stim.

Some benifites of stimming:

• Increased ability to remain calm
• Reduced meltdowns
• Increased tolerance of challenging sensory situations
• Increased focus, attention span, and task management abilities
• SELF-ACCEPTANCE AS AN AUTISTIC PERSON

Some examples of stimming:

• flapping hands. Blinking or moving fingers in front of eyes. 
• making vocal sounds. snapping fingers
• scratching; rubbing the skin with one's hand or other object
• rocking front and back or side to side. Moving in a rhythmic motion.
• licking body parts or an object. (their was  a point when N-Zilla licked tree's and Crazy Horse bite her hair)
• smelling objects, hands, or other people

Stim On!

*Stimming is not to be confused with self-harm. In the case of self-harm find a replacement behavior that is safe and healthy. Please speak with your doctor or in the case of a child your child's pediatrician. 

Tips and Suggestions. April Edition.

April is Autism Month!  A month for Awareness. A month for Acceptance. A month for Education. And if you or a family member is on the spectrum then it all year long.   

Tips and Suggestions from your friendly neighborhood N-Zilla and Mom~

Posting pictures and hashtagging are part (and appreciated) part of spreading the word. Keep doing it. In addition to hashtags and retweets in honor of April Autism Month here is a list of some local organizations her in San Antonio/Bexar County that are a good resource for Autistic people and families. Donate.Volunteer. Get to know the organization and share with your community. 

Any Baby Can. anybabycan.org

San Antonio Office

Address: 217 Howard

San Antonio, Texas 78212

Main Office Line: 210-227-0170

Fax Line: 210-227-0812

*autism community network. acn-sa.org 

Address: 4242 woodcock dr suite 101

San Antonio TX 78228

Phone: 210-435-1000

fax: 210-200-6056

*Brighton of San Antonio. brightonsa.org

Address: 14207 Higgins Rd

san Antonio tX 78217

Phone: 210826-4492

*Kenetic Kids San antonio. kinetickidstx.org